Check out day

  

It was our last day and we planned to make the best of it. The night before we told the kids the plan. As soon as we woke up we were to get in our beach where and head out to the beach for one hour followed by the pool for another hour. This would give us enough time to go back to room, wash up and clear out. Plan ago. We were up early, as usual, so we headed out to the beach as planned with the kids and sand buckets. 

Things were going well. The beach was fairly empty still and the kids were having great fun. E had seemed to learn to stay closer to the shore line after a wave toppled him over yesterday. He mostly played with the sand trying to build a mote. N was flopping around in the water still looking for shells, lava rocks and bits or coral. My daughter was in her glory playing with two little babies digging in the sand. Everything was calm and all appeared to be happy.

Then, without warning E took off down the beach. I called for him to turn back but he didn’t listen. He just kept running following the shore line, so at this point I now had to become an Olympic sprinter and start after him. Gosh, it is terribly difficult running in sand and my feet are torn up from all the broken seashells I stepped on during the chase. Finally, I grab him. Thankfully, he gets to close to the water and a wave hits him and slows him down. After I catch my breath, while still holding him, I ask him “Why did you run away?” He just looked at me and laughed “I was going on an adventure.” I began to tell him about the dangers of running into the ocean alone. That he doesn’t know how to swim and if something happened maybe we wouldn’t be able to help him. I asked him “what happens if you go in the water and you can’t swim? He replied “I would drown.”  So he gets it but why he doesn’t follow the rules is beyond me. My husband says he is fearless and it’s true but he is also wreck-less. Then again, he is only 6. We left the beach after this. I was done.

As I played in the pool with the kids, I thought about what could have set him off on his run. He doesn’t like the sand feeling, the birds were flying over, the crowd was starting to grow and there were more voices near by, the crashing of the waves, the wind was blowing and his sister was screeching.  That couldn’t of been it because he said he was “going on an adventure.” He may possibly have an ear infection again, those often make him unsettled. Or maybe he just felt like running. Though he is improving, E’s explications are never solid, so I may never know.

I see parents lounging back on beach chairs and their kids playing nice on the beach. Staying close or

Sprinting position

constantly checking in while their parents read or close their eyes. Their is a trust their and a level of comfort we do not have with our kids. I was able to do it with N and EM more this trip but E just kept me up on guard. Seeing this often makes me question the type of parent I am. Maybe I’m not as good as those parents. That I’m not doing something right. Then I brush away those negative thoughts and move on. I watched as he played in the sand. He was content but always looked like he was prepared to sprint off at any given moment. Which he did end up doing. It must be nice to sit back like that, enjoy the sounds of the beach and just be in a relaxed state. Those parents don’t realize how lucky they are to have those moments come easy. I long for that day. I believe it will come but with a great deal of hard work on our end. Well worth it if we can get him their.

There were a few outbursts in the car and likely from being locked down for so long. Despite some of the stresses of the trip, overall, we had a great trip. The kids were happy and we were happy to give them this experience. The more we expose them to things, the better their chances are of having a full and happy life that prepares them for the real world because the real world is rough.

We are blessed for sure.

With love and dedication anything is possible!

Enter the World of Meds

Not to long ago, we succumb to the idea that our son may need a little more help when it came to self control and impulsivity. We had done so much with Behavioral Therapy in hopes that it would help curve some of his maladaptive behaviors but then Early Autism Project just dropped him. The same therapy that is meant to work with and improve those behaviors, used his behavior as their excuse. It was repulsive really but while we were in search of a new ABA provider, we knew something needed to be done to keep him and others safe. Enter the world of Meds.

We met with his Behavior Pediatrician and discussed our  medication options. You may recall me discussing this in one of my other posts. I had genuine concerns about how the medication/s would affect him. My worry is that he could get worse, that the medications could mess around with his young developing mind or that it could be lethal. All reasonable thoughts and concerns. These medications are all stimulants and he is only five years old my feelings were legitimate.

The key for us is that he has a wonderful Behavioral Pediatrician who heard my concerns and understood E’s situation. She knew he was a very bright boy with a vivid imagination who often had sensory and major impulsivity issues that presented poor choice making and sometimes extreme aggression. I wanted to help my son before he hurt himself or someone else. He is super strong and I knew it was only a matter of time. So we agreed to try a drug that was a Non-stimulant first, Guinifance (Tenex). There were some risks involved as it had never been tested on a boy his age but they outweighed the other stimulant side effects so we started him on it right away. To start the dose would be very small, that would increase slowly but not exceed 5mls a day.

We slowly worked him up to 3.5 mls in the am which lasted 12 hours and a second dose of 2 mls once at home. He was showing signs that the medications were working. He was listening to instruction better and was taking naps right after school. However, problems started to present themselves in different ways. He now was falling asleep in class despite having a good nights rest and his blood pressure was a bit low at times. After meeting with doctor again, she decided it would be best to lower his meds. We then went from 3.5 mls in am and then no medication upon arrival home. Then a few weeks went by and he was still showing the same issues but then things managed to get way worse. The school nurse called me stating that he was cold outside but it was 90 degrees out. When they brought him in, he fell asleep and when she took his BP it was dangerously low. The school RN hydrated him, called the doctor and sent him home. The doctor immediately called me and told us to stop the medication all together. At this point, I had already decided this as well. I rather be dealing with the impulsivity and hyperactivity then risking his health or worse his life.

Now he is taking nothing prescribed but is doing a few things differently suggested by the Behavioral Pediatrician. He drinks a small bit of coffee with milk as it has a reverse affect on his hyperactivity. I am sure plenty of parents would be against this idea but I was fine with it. Culturally,  I grew up with a grandmother that gave us coffee and milk as small children so I see no harm in it.  The only issue is that I can’t give him that at school. So I will cross that bridge when we come to it.

We also tried Chamomile drops but it gave him a severe rash. Strangely, he doesn’t have the same reaction when he drinks the brewed tea. He took Genius Drops for focus and attention but that ironically made him more hyper. I have also started giving him vitamins with Omega’s to boost his neurological development. Normally, he refuses all vitamins especially the gummy type ones but he takes this liquid just fine. It is strawberry banana flavored and he and his siblings love it too. The entire family loves Barlean’s Omega-3, and it is highly recommended by our family. For everything else, the search goes on.


We are blessed for sure.

With love and dedication anything is possible!